Ejaculation vs. Orgasm … What’s the Difference?

When it comes to talking about sex, our culture struggles to understand terminology and definitions. The use of words and meanings is necessary for clear communication. If we can’t communicate clearly, we can’t explain I agree What’s wrong with our bodies? If we don’t use the words correctly, the doctor can often focus on the wrong problem. There are two words that I often use incorrectly: ejaculation and orgasm.

Ejaculation and orgasm are not the same thing at all. They are two very different body functions that usually occur around the same time. Both ejaculation and orgasm can have functional problems. If we cannot clearly describe the problem, the doctor cannot help us. The general public is not alone in this confusion. I am often amazed when speaking to urologists that even they confuse these two events.

ejaculation is the pulsating contraction of the pelvic / penile muscles to expel sperm. Ejaculations can involve one or more muscle contractions, which can last anywhere from a few seconds to 30 seconds or more. It is normal for the sperm to drip out, and it is also normal for the sperm to shoot several feet! Everyone is different. For some men, no semen will come out. This does not mean that there was no ejaculation – it is simply referred to as “dry ejaculation”. The ejaculation process is controlled by a lower spinal cord, which acts as a miniature brain and controls the sexual response.

An orgasm is the euphoric feeling that occurs with the climax. Very often orgasm can lead to muscle spasms, voice noises, and other body movements. But these movements do not help expel sperm. An orgasm is caused by a sudden release of brain chemicals. These euphoric sensations can be described as large, small, genital-focused whole bodies and even seem to emanate from different areas of the body. Orgasms can last anywhere from a few seconds to 15 to 20 seconds for some men – the average for most men is 5 to 10 seconds.

Most men believe they are experiencing these two events at the same time. The truth is that they occur close together, but for some men they feel an orgasm just before they ejaculate and other men start to ejaculate and then feel the orgasm. Both are completely normal. The pulsating contractions of ejaculation are pleasurable, but they are no more part of the orgasm than the pleasurable stimulation of the penis is part of the orgasm.

Interestingly, some men learn to separate an ejaculation from an orgasm. Some men can learn to have multiple orgasms and never ejaculate until they choose to. This takes a lot of practice, but it can be done. Some men learn to have full body orgasms through anal / prostate stimulation. These orgasms have no accompanying ejaculation – in fact, these orgasms have nothing to do with the penis at all! There are anecdotal stories of men who have suffered spinal cord injuries who cannot feel their penis but can orgasm when stimulating other parts of their body such as their armpits or neck. Some men can orgasm through nipple stimulation. Some men can ejaculate / orgasm without touching their penis!

Both orgasms and ejaculation can have problems. If this happens to you, please make sure you know exactly what is going wrong. Are you having ejaculation issues (such as timing, pain, or sperm) or having orgasm issues (loss of euphoria, decreased feeling, loss of orgasm)? Be sure to consult a doctor.

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